“Will it be a tree or a new garden?” my partner asked me two weeks ago. For the past 15 years, we have been planting as a way to acknowledge and memorialize people and animals in our lives we have loved and lost. The question we ask now is not “what do we do to acknowledge loss” as much as...

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News reports, radio, and the internet have been highlighting a recent letter sent to incoming undergraduates from the administration at The University of Chicago (U of C). Among other things, the letter states that the University does “not condone the creation of intellectual 'safe spaces' where individuals can retreat from ideas and perspectives at odds with their own." It may...

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More and more I hear people asking for trigger warnings when there is a chance something someone may say or do will evoke emotional pain. This is happening on college campuses where students are asking faculty to provide warnings about difficult classroom material, as well as in mental health organizations, where clinicians are asking colleagues to provide warnings before talking...

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I met Mike almost 15 years ago. He came to me after hearing about the groups I was facilitating for gay male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. He’d been in therapy before, but told me he didn’t believe he’d ever really looked at how the abuse he experienced was affecting his life now.

After some time talking, we both thought...

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Even after 35 years of working in mental health, I still get a little nervous when I am calling a provider I don’t know or have never worked with to coordinate services.  It’s not that I don’t value sharing information, I just find not everyone has the same philosophy and not everyone welcomes an opportunity to collaborate.  Or, there are...

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One of the premises underlying the work we do is our desire to help.  Implicit in the idea of helping is improving concrete life conditions or increasing the experience of happiness or peace in someone’s internal landscape.  Helping means feeling better.  If that is one of the most basic premises underlying the work we do, how do we respond when...

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Endings and beginnings serve a purpose.  They punctuate change.  They allow us to put a hard stop on a process that has been painful.  They invite us to start anew with a fresh perspective.  They allow us to celebrate accomplishments.  They enable us to set goals for further accomplishments. 

Still, as I let my thinking wander, I realize that endings...

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