• “You need to take care of yourself!"
  • “You need to leave your work at work!"  
  • “You shouldn’t be thinking about your clients when you're not at work.”
  • “You must have poor boundaries and must not be a very good social worker if you can’t separate yourself from your work.”

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Abby shot up from her seat and ran out of my office.  I asked her to stop and tell me what was wrong, but she left without saying a word.  I quickly called her cell phone but she didn’t pick up so I left a message.  I tried to reach her later that evening and I still got her voice...

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“I don’t have anything to report,” Joel said to me as we began our session.  This had become our beginning ritual, despite having worked together for almost a year. 

Joel is not the only client who starts a session like this.  In other instances, I’ll be talking with someone for a few minutes and then, after a brief silence, I’ll...

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I recently received an email from a client thanking me for the work we have done together and telling me how much he had grown.  In that same email, he shared he had decided to end therapy, at least for now.  This isn’t the first time I’ve received such an email, though sometimes it’s in the form of a voicemail. 

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“Hey Jeff, I just realized that by the end of this month I’ll have known you for 14 years.  I didn’t realize we’d been seeing each other that long.  Did you?”  I thought for a few seconds about Adam’s statement and question before responding.  “What makes you think of that now,” I asked.  I prepared myself for a response about...

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“I feel worse leaving this session than I did when I came in,” Paul said through tears in his eyes.  “Therapy is supposed to make me feel better!”  I don’t think this is helping me!”

“You’re supposed to know how to make this pain stop!  You’re the professional.  I pay you to help me,” were words Janice frequently shared with...

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I’ve never been great with silence.  In my own life, I am known to be listening to music while working at my laptop, or having the television on while cleaning a room.  When I used to jog regularly, I would be sure to be wearing headphones.  It has been hard to sit with my thoughts without having the ability to...

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