I Can’t Keep Going Like This

One of the premises underlying the work we do is our desire to help.  Implicit in the idea of helping is improving concrete life conditions or increasing the experience of happiness or peace in someone’s internal landscape.  Helping means feeling better.  If that is...

Healing Spirals

Endings and beginnings serve a purpose.  They punctuate change.  They allow us to put a hard stop on a process that has been painful.  They invite us to start anew with a fresh perspective.  They allow us to celebrate accomplishments.  They enable us to set goals for...

Don’t Be Sad…Or At Least Don’t Talk About It!

“I’d like to see a male therapist.” “I’d like to see a therapist who is older.” “I’d like to see a therapist who takes BCBS insurance.” “I’d like to see a therapist who is lesbian.” “I’d like to see an African American therapist.” “I’d like to see a therapist who has...

Clashing Values

In the 30 plus years I have been in practice, I can’t count the number of times I have worked with someone who has a value system that is different than mine.  A number of weeks ago I wrote about how our differences still offer opportunities to foster deeper...

Better Late Than Never

There have been many times over the years, when someone shares with me something new, sometimes even when we’ve known each other for many years.  This comes up not only in my work with clients, but also with people with whom I have had longstanding friendships.  I...