Peace Is This Moment*

I met Mike almost 15 years ago. He came to me after hearing about the groups I was facilitating for gay male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. He’d been in therapy before, but told me he didn’t believe he’d ever really looked at how the abuse he experienced was...

Waiting for Forgiveness or Waiting for an Apology

Sometimes we seek therapy because we are trying to understand and manage hurts that have accumulated over the years or even recent hurts that feel powerful and pervasive.  Of course it’s also true that we may seek therapy for hurts we have caused others in the...

When Your Partner is Depressed

Life has its ups and downs.  It is part of the human experience to feel down sometimes, to have a lack of energy for daily life, and to feel sad for a while.  However, it is crucial to be able to distinguish between the emotional carousel of daily life and the...

The Benefits of Mistakes

Perfectionist. High Achiever. Overly critical. Lofty expectations. Many of us resonate with these phrases, and maybe even had them placed on us by others or by ourselves. I am one of these people – I have always set extremely high expectations of myself, and struggled...